What do you do when the relationship you wanted wasn't as you thought it would be? Run? Find anew? Stop?

When I had my first felt that "she" is the one, I accepted her. It felt like a dream from the start but to know later that "she" is the type that is narrow minded, never open to anyone, only wants attention 24hours/7days and to make matters worse, insanely sensitive about everything what I am doing which is driving me mad. Also, choosing between family and friends with relationship?!

I used to go out hang out with friends, free to call, free to message as I please, free to do anything I want. Now? Instantly gone in a blink of an eye. Just like that. Tell me what should I do~

try communicating. if she loves you, and you love her, you both should try open up to communicate the problem. i don't think you need to surpress ur feelings, orelse it will further create inner conflicts, which of course make life uneasy. realtionship shudn't be a thing that creates boundaries to ur social life. maybe opening up to communicate can makes her understand how u feel and be more tolerable? good luck.

hi chris~ welcome to the forum =D


If not happy, just let go lah. Its not like you can't live without her. Who knows once you let go, she'll start miss you, changed and wanna get back with you =p


Life goes on~

hoho. over grasped on that kind of feeling is not good.
insecureness ?
care too much gua.
good luck.
as long as u dont think too much negative thoughts xD
things will go straight...i think.

Try to think in her point of view, she probably loves you too much and is scared of losing you... unfortunately, doing it the wrong way. Open up to her n tel her how u feel about it, tell her u need time and space for frens and family too. Communication is important as said by Munyin.

Also, in a relationship there should be trust. From what u're saying, obviously she's feeling insecure and doesn't trust you enough. Of course, trust takes time to build up. In time, she'll learn to trust the things u do and the ppl u mix with. Try introducing her to ur frens and family and convince her ppl around u are not that bad afterall.

In any case, relationships should never burden u this way. If u really can't stand her clinginess, choose to ignore her at times. Show that u're annoyed by it, and i mean really really show it. Soon she'll learn how to be with u, without being needy.

If that still doesn't work, I suggest - BREAK UP.

Not to say that I'm not thinking positive. But the fact she keeps me from everybody is not a good sign. I think to myself "It's good that she cares and thinks about me.. But deleting my friends number? Not letting me talk to girls that I know? Always want me to stay at home not going out? THIS IS JUST TOO MUCH! I need my personal space!!"

I have guy friends that smoke and she says "Don hang around with them!". I have friends that want me to go out at night to have dinner and she says "You care more about them than me! Those are not good people!"
I have girl friends which to me is only friends and she says "I don't trust you! I don't want to be with a playboy!"

I say I wanna go to Prom Night to enjoy myself she says "You don't care about me anymore!"

Communication? That I've tried.. She says "You wan your space? You want your time? I think you want your friends more than me! BREAK BREAK BREAK!!" I have tried to introduce her to my friends and she say "I have feeling that this person is not good" She never even talk to them and say she KNOWS!

I also have tried to let go but keeps coming back saying "I WILL CHANGE." Not even last for few days and back to the way she was before. Saying stuff like "Friends more important. I'm not important in your life" Well you get the picture.

I've been keeping feelings inside of me for way too long. It's not good for my health!

Wah. . . *speechless*
This kinda girl is not good for ur health man seriously.
Whatever it is, it's ur choice. decide what's best for urself, follow ur heart.

OH ya, Ask her go prom with u =)

wow. good thing u realize it earlier.
her EQ level seems low through your description about her.
well seriously u need to have a serious talk with her.
but if u already gives in and she is unwilling to gives in and continue to be dominating your social life.
your doom's day is near about then.
good luck haha.
really are the symptoms of caring u too much and afraid of losing you. haha.
is her confidence low? dont even let u interact with girls too.
really COUPLE world.

wow. that's really bad. really really bad. i bet it must be the worst thing that could happen to a guy in a relationship. why prolong the pain. lol. decide. and well, make a choice which will make both of ur life easier

Dudeeeee! You told me your story last year and now it's still the same? Hey I'm not trying to make you look bad here or anything but even you yourself is very clear of the situation. Put it in a simpler way, if your not happy then forget about it, just break up. Life goes on and you'll meet another girl eventually.


Cheers~

My ex oso owes never happy when I go out with frens, girls and guys.. Frens advised the same thing lo, BREAK! Coz a relationship tat owes make u sad and suffer, why maintain it? == Hafta gather your courage to break the news to her.. That's not the hardest part, the hardest part is after you break up, you'll be without her companion anymore.. You MUST bear with it no matter what coz everytime you miss her you may accept her back.. that's the flaw lo.. >< I've been there haha.. Depends on how fast you can recover and forget about her.. My cure is I owes go lim teh with frens and maybe expressed again la.. then play and enjoy the freedom gained But will still have tat leftover feelings lingering around de.. so need to gambatte lo.. ><

Breaking a relationship is as easy as a snapped" but building a relationship is not easy >_<
I think communication is very important and it's best trying to get along but does not mean that you need to follow 100% of what she says or maybe you can try bring her out with your friends more >_n

mayb he did communicate with her?
but that such dominant girl wont just give in easily i suppose?
my assumption is the communication confirm failure. =.=
get yourself out of the quicksand b4 u drown to death

lol...maybe you guys got a point there but probably can talk through a middleman coz not always if talking personally can get the message into her mind >_<'''

if a relationship needs a middleman, it's not couple anymore
it's triple. triangle wor.